They Pitied Me

They Pitied Me

My entire family has soft, straight hair.
I’m the only one with curly hair.
“Why is your hair so ugly?” they also wondered.
My mother didn’t know how to take care of it.
Everyone used to compliment my sister’s beautiful hair and pity me.

I had my hair in a bun all during childhood and adolescence.
I was convinced I was the ugliest girl in the world.
I started getting chemical treatments and using hair straighteners when I got older.
I thought my life would be over if I couldn’t straighten my hair for any reason, such as the electricity going out.
For 9 years, my husband never saw my natural hair.
He too didn’t like curly hair.

I started following the curly hair routine a few months ago.
I started having confidence in myself for the first time in my life.
I never thought I’d be able to wear my hair down or leave it in its natural state.
It made me believe I was truly beautiful.
I still get comments like,
“Your hair doesn’t look nice that way. Go back to brushing it.”
“It seems you’re trying to make yourself look ugly on purpose.”
But I don’t care what they think anymore because I know I’m beautiful the way I am.
I have confidence in myself.

I used to pull on my hair to make it straight.
But now, I admire my hair’s curls.
I mean, what’s the purpose of God giving me curly hair if it’s meant to be straightened?

Girls are bullied because of their hair.
They’re bullied by a society of naturally curly-haired people.

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